Did I Love my husband and still abuse him emotionally
Tue, Dec 12th 2006
I was emotionally abused as a child. I met my husband as a teenager and we very much in Love, it was the first time I had felt Love in my life.
Now after almost 30 years together and many problems in our marriage, he truly believes I never Loved Him and in Fact Hated Him. He thinks I am an manipulative person who at age 15 set out to destroy him emotionally and physically. I thought I loved him and somehow did not realize what I was doing.
I began to emotionally ignored him and never thanked him for gift he showered on me and would say I do not deserve it. He knew I was abused and when he tried to address issues he backed away because I looked weak.
I know I need help but Please tell me could and would I still love him while abusing him.
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